December 6, 2022, 12:17 pm. I think that time alone is essential to the health of any relationship. If you dont like this? Dont you like spending time with us. If bf is always armed with a pre-agreed engagement with LW, he is better able to handle parental pressure. ReginaRey January 20, 2012, 8:21 am. The pursuer (usually the guy, but not always) realizes that he has gotten the person he wanted, and stops feeling the need to woo herie frequent well-thought-out dates, sweet romantic gestures in the middle of the day, unprompted soliloquizing on how much you mean to him, etc. WebSince weve been married and as bf/gf When I ask to spend a weekend or day with my family he says he's too tired. Maybe something is up with his family? a lot of people just arent that way. Maybe pick out a day once a weekend which is just couples time (hate the term date night). Firstly, it will be different for every couple, and secondly, some things you will never find out no matter how long you are dating until you move in together and go to sleep and wake up with each other every single day. Those are two crucial things that need to be in place if youre going to spend your life with this man. Will.i.am ReginaRey As was said before, while you are dating you should be attempting to find out as much info as possible. I am extremely close to my family, I talk to them for the most part at least once a day. ReginaRey Make sure that you are sensitive to your husband and your in-laws. For every invitation I declined, four more appeared, she said. You dont have a problem with that, but does it have to be every weekend? Say that you were thinking more along the lines of once a month. Thats what next times are for! So, say a family gets together every week for Sunday Dinner- you think thats dysfunctional? Its not only a blow to your self esteem but also in how you pick your mate overall. When they were planning on adopting, I told her that if this is an issue to where she is left with baby a huge amount of time and resents him for it, its not going to be pretty. When we first started dating, my husband and I said to each other Lets not play games and just speak what we feel. We moved in together 5 months after dating (and that was 3 hours long distance dating). Plan a trip to visit your family. But Im talking about my family. I try to suggest fun things to do but its as if he doesnt feel like doing them. One thing is for sure, he comes home to you at the end of the weekend, even more tired than he left. One thing you can try before just accepting things as they are or moving on already is to start scheduling activities and day trips on the weekends that your boyfriend is home. WebGo to counseling with your husband. Not just loving-tight, but codependent-tight. There is also his room, just as it was when he lived there. When you talk to your boyfriend about your concerns be careful that it is not perceived as an ultimatum, just that you would like to discuss other options of things to do on the weekend. If he came back home, he would insist that we spend the whole weekend out in the rural area hanging out with his parents. Its one thing to have dinner with your family once a week. If you cant deal for the long haul, then dont. Is it a deal breaker? demoiselle First, they have to lead partners to interact with each other in a positive way. This has been going on for 4 years and its not going to change on its own. Some families really are just that close. Laura Hope, I totally agree with you. That's a tricky one as this issue must have crossed your mind when you married someone whose family is in another country - you I always feel like I have to be a little more on at my in-laws vs at my familys house. Or maybe the LW would be more willing to let her boyfriend spend time with his parents on his own during the weekend, if she could spend weekday nights with him. So you are in a happy relationship, and you both of you decide that you want to take the next step. Its sad that we put our heads in the sand, but who wants to really start over, by themselves, when your husband or wife of however many years has been cheating on you. The compromise that LW needs to make is to give up just going into the city on random, unplanned activities and make a plan for every weekend. Your husband does not know what to do with himself on weekends. Just because I didnt want to start over again. Honestly, if she came back here and said she suggests things to do, or frames her conversations with boyfriend differently, I would have a different response. And I did my bit in the thumbs war on your side! As your history with him has shown, he likes spending his weekends with you. I Hate My New Job After 2 Days Is it Horrible To Quit? If he wants to visit his parents for dinner once or twice a week, his wife should be accompanying him. You mention what you used to do when your were single. June 18, 2014, 10:50 am. She does go with him on occasion, but it is something that is always an issue between them. Blondie Posted on Last updated: December 26, 2022. Like the people who say they wouldnt want to know a significant other was cheating on them. Visiting families and spending time with siblings takes up much time in a marriage. Its not explicitly in the letter, by I got the feeling that the weekend visits to bfs family preceded the moving in together, but that she still had some weekend time to herself. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. She doesnt mention doing it with him at all. From that, I can either follow blindly and accept whatever consequences arise form our different spending styles, or, if it is a deal breaker for me, I move. The LW and her fellow need to figure out a game plan together, she should be honest about her needs rather than her annoyance. So dont wait around for that. All this to say: LW, your BF would annoy the shit out of me too. LW I would advise you not to make it seem like you are asking your boyfriend to choose either you or his family. If they are as busy with their jobs as she says, I could see where they didnt see each other all week and he would spend his free time on the weekends with her. But if that has been the case and she doesnt want it to continue, she should try to stop it now. January 20, 2012, 10:52 am. Healthy couples accept these realities of life, work together to minimize the strain, and maximize their relaxation and entertainment time.. GatorGirl You cant expect your husband to not want to see his family, and you shouldnt. In fact toward the end, when I was tired of the distance and really pushing for us to have a normal weekend together, he started accusing me of trying to take him away from his family (nvm the fact that in the four years prior to our relationship when he was away at college, he would come home and visit his family once a semester but then he started dating me and coming home every other weekend). Dear Ann Cannon So my only son and his wife have been married for almost four years. Agreed, there is too much time spent sitting on the couch in this letter. Or is that the LWs perception because she wants to be home? Now that they are obviously not, it is definitely time for some conversation. Yes, this. June 18, 2014, 10:47 am. Its hard not knowing when a passing will Its completely free, gets you out of the house, and we leave our phones in the car so no chance for parent interruption! Lemongrass ReginaRey Sometimes I think that theres something that happens around the 3-6 month mark in most relationships. Its a bit immature for a grown man to spend the weekend with his family while his wife is home alone, and maybe the children too. I think that would be more telling than the sit at home or hang with parents scenario. Not normal. Agreed. artsielady. It can still have a lot of randomness to it, but be bookended by specific activities. I could say that he can go by himself for these things, but I want the weekends for quality couple time since we both have pretty demanding jobs during the week. TaraMonster it was just a sort of tradition. A day at the lake or beach or some body of water? I am actually not promoting anything. When family is in town, we spend almost every waking minute visiting. Often in relationships, we wonder if we are overthinking things and imagining a problem where there isnt one. In my experience, if you manage to schedule some quality couple time whatever activity counts as that for you every weekend, youre likely to care much less about visiting the in-laws etc. I know how he feels about adoption because he shared his feelings on it during a discussion I started simply saying someday Id love to adopt and really hope it will happen. Just over coffee, no contracts or anything. June 18, 2014, 2:59 pm, BIg difference between loving your parents and being codependent on them. I know its tough when your fellow is away during the week and you want to see him too but if it stresses you out, take yourself out of the situation. I have a friend in Chicago who, as soon as he gets off work at 4:30 (bastard works until only 4:30!) Come on, BGM! At the center, authority figures in a power position, you typically have parents or other guardians. Next time he says to go to his parents for the w/end, tell hime youd rather do x or y. artsygirl January 20, 2012, 11:26 am. Yeah, I agree with ron. You also mention a somewhat imbalanced division of finances did you discuss that before moving in? I remember when I first moved in with my now husband I was so determined to split all expenses down the middle, even though at the time I was getting ripped off by my boss of the time (hed pay most of the people that worked for him whenever he felt like it, which was hardly ever). June 18, 2014, 9:55 am. That said, I think the LW should just talk to her boyfriend. Make plans for activities. Like the other commenters have said, just communicate! Do you guys never visit/spend time with them? If the amount of time he spends with his parents is causing an issue in his relationship, then I would say its definitely a problem he needs to address. If its something that you just cant some to terms with, than it may just be an incompatibility that you two cant overcome. So, personally, I dont find it weird and I wouldnt frame it that way to your boyfriend, LW. You dont want to talk about important issues with a SO so that you can pretend moving in together is a great idea because you dont know any better because you have SPECIFICALLY chosen not to know about better? Of course Im describing a worse-case scenario, but think of what feels right for YOU as far as family interaction & seek that out. That was my first thought. I dont know how to handle a situation that hasnt happened yet. January 20, 2012, 11:20 am. Something like frequent arguments, disagreements, misunderstandings? And I bet your boyfriend will come home a bit sooner if you do! My boyfriend and I have been living together for about 6 months, after dating for a year. Ill add that another strategy you could try if those mentioned dont work is to simply spend less time at his parents house yourself. If you feel like youre not the priority, then you almost certainly arent. The finance issue, however, would bother me more at this point. Yeah, I agree you should really talk to him about it. He has a scenario in his head of how they feel hurt, and thats why he has to see them every weekend. how do we divide furniture? Youve already talked to your boyfriend about your feelings and he doesnt think hes doing anything weird. The thing is, whether or not his behavior is weird is irrelevant. November 29, 2019, 5:49 pm, Angelique Im super indepedent though, and I coudlnt imagine spending all of my free time with one person. I can see it both ways. WebHere are potential reasons why your husband goes out every weekend without you. I give up. Ive been dealing with it a little bit lately, and this letter sounded kind of similar. Wendy has said she works 2 weeks or so in the future, which means she likely got this letter about two weeks ago which was right after a bunch of holidays! Too much info missing. June 18, 2014, 10:18 am. GatorGirl June 18, 2014, 12:55 pm. Did you guys actually read this letter? I agree with you. Trust me, I like to avoid problems just like the next person, but I think theres a difference between letting things slide and not being confrontational and willfully blinding yourself to the reality of your relationship. Id say first, talk to him and say that you dont want to spend every weekend at his parents place. January 4, 2021, 3:09 am. Anonymousse I think at around this point in relationships, the traditional roles of pursuer and pursued tend to go away. Decompressing is a perfectly acceptable way to spend a weekend. Sources: Ive studied psychology and dysfunctional family dynamics for years. All rights reserved. June 18, 2014, 12:46 pm. Maybe he is making up time for that. muchachaenlaventana You know what will happen when you make him choose between spending every single weekend in the suburbs with his parents or three weekends a month in the city with you? January 20, 2012, 11:41 am. Laura Hope Go to a zoo! Anne has since finished her probation and has a 5-year-old son who my mother dotes on. Explain to your husband that you want to spend time with him on the weekend, not always with his parents. Bike riding? Not to say that this stuff goes away altogether, just that it can decrease in frequency, sometimes dramatically. June 18, 2014, 9:59 am, Haha, I think this is quite extreme. you can let things happen naturally to a certain point but after that there are times you have to have a conversation, unless you want there to be misunderstandings or assumptions made. My family lives a 45 mins train ride out of Grand Central (not including hopping a cab or the subway to get to GCT- and then the ride to their place once we get off the train) and if I made my boyfriend go with me once a week to see them he would be less than thrilled. I think the issue is that you just need to communicate. I think a lot of people on here are offering her good suggestions to try and help her with her boyfriend and to get him to spend less time with his family and more time hanging out with her. He will come home maybe 1 or 2 days out of the week to spend the evening with me and then legitimately go over to his parents to sleep over and stay there most of his time. He lived 4.5 hours away. Five months later I was pregnant. It may not be romantic, but its incredibly smart to make sure you have all of your bases covered before taking that kind of step. I like to relax at home. You go along with him to his familys house. Its just that based on textbooks and the definition of words and so on, yes sometimes things will be labeled as normal or dysfunctional. Am I the only person that is truly freightened by this? My parents have an awesome house with a huge yard with bike, 4 wheelers, space for baseball, a pool, tennis court (now I sound spoiled)if we lived close enough Id rather hang at their house than our little apartment. However, you could opt to take time off longer than a weekend to spend time with him. January 20, 2012, 11:18 am. If you split everything while dating, I dont think it is wrong to assume that you will continue doing so once you move in together. He has 3 sons two who are 26 (act like June 18, 2014, 11:40 am. My bf is exactly the same and we have a kid he sleeps there tho and we have been together for four year i am at the end of the line now i cant deal with it no more rather than spend the nigt at home with me and his son his mam and dad showrd up and said av come to take u and he had the cheek to ask me as he was already out of the door u alright er no am not alright but get on with it, They are ruinin our relationship we just lost a baby in septemeber and things are just bad i feel lile he doesnt want to be here and doesnt love me cos if he did he wudnt want to be up there he spends 5 out of the 7 days up the in the last two month we have lived together for four years. Long story short even though we saw each other almost every weekend for 4.5 straight years, not once did he agree to this. if it works for you, thats all that matters. Maybe Im the weird one who, even if I leave work early, never seems to get home until wayyyy late. Dont go this weekend. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly four years now and have discussed marriage in the near future. They could deny it, and if they wanted to change, they could. You want to spend the weekend together, and he has to visit each of them. Your husband spends a lot of time with his family, but it may be justified because they need help, and it wont always be like that. Addie Pray March 11, 2017, 11:48 am. They live in a suburb of New York, where we live, and weve somehow gotten into a routine of spending significant amounts of time at their house nearly every weekend. Or pick berries. Copyright 2023 Dear Wendy. Either way, if she doesnt want to be there every weekend, this is the time to discuss it. Your husband loves to drink it with his dad while discussing sports. and cant get out much, so Drew has dinner with him every week. Trying to see this in another light (or maybe just defending myself haha), I could totally see myself saying oh come on, hang out for a while longer to just about anyone who comes over. Lets find out why he behaves like that and offer tips on what you should do. But, I also wouldnt feel bad saying its been a long week I really want to binge watch Netflix and catch up on laundry today. Your bf dated you before so you know he is capable of doing it again. I totally agree with Wendys 2nd paragraph. He is not making her a priority & placing a lot of his focus & free time with his parents. You know how it usually goes, on weekdays, you and your husband work, and you have a little time for yourself. for example, before moving in if you dont have a conversation about how bills are paid, do you just assume that one of you will pay certain ones. January 20, 2012, 9:09 am. 5. . In perhaps nicer phrasingyes. ForeverYoung I mean they obviously leave and get their nights together so its not like they are having sleepovers etc. So much fun and its free! Yeah I think its just generally not a good idea to more or less automatically join every activity the boyfriend wants to do instead of functioning independently to some degree. Those conversations should have happened before. January 20, 2012, 9:16 am, LW I would sit down and talk with your BF. She kept trying to change it and regularly fights with him about it. If he did this every single night, though, I would not be so supportive, to say the least. . Tell him that while you love his parents, you miss going into the city on weekends and having weekend time alone with him in the city too. And if we dont decide to go there a weekend hes home, his mom will ALWAYS think of an excuse to drop by for hours at a time. Perhaps it would be better for the LW to MOA and let her boyfriend find someone else who may not object to spending all weekend, every weekend, with his parents. You guys share a toilet, you can afford some alone time one weekend a month. Do you both work very long hours or something that he cant muster up enthusiasm to do fun things with you? Maybe Im wrong, but the fact that he needs to be there every weekend (although what is significant amounts of time?) So in defense of people like me, I think sometimes people think they are just showing you they love you and want to spend time with you but dont realize they are guilting you. I never read the letters, just the headline, but I can tell by the headline alone that its normal. This may seem obvious, but its so easy to forget and feel bad. I mean if youre banging before you move in together surely youve discussed birth control and/or in case of an accidental pregnancy scenarios. YES! You SHOULD sit down and have a rational, democratic discussion about the BIG ISSUES before you move in together, if you havent already discussed them outright. All your weekend plans are ruined by default because your husband has to spend every weekend with his family. Maybe this difference will be easily resolved, and youll be together forever! January 4, 2021, 3:30 am. 15 signs he doesnt want to spend time with you 1) Hes always busy Granted, most people are busy these days. Melissa Melms, who lives with her fianc in Hoboken, New Jersey, says making time for herself amps up her happiness, which in turn benefits the relationship. I think like Wendy said its perfectly fine to let him know you would prefer to have time in your own house on the weekends. You know I was in a similar situation once, my ex and his parents like to see each other a lot more than I liked to see them. I think more than anything, you have to have a VERY solid foundation of good communication to have a successful live-in relationshipand this letter makes me feel, at least, that they havent been together long enough to achieve that. I love my city, but I also love my home (for clarification, I am referring to my apartment I dont live with or near my parents). LW, what everyone else said. I think more people would do well to have a back-up plan if youre to break up (who moves out? Same way he knows about how I feel about abortion, politics, etc. I have a friend whose husband is like this. I think the commenters who speak of the bf feeling settled and not having to date any more are correct. Laura Hope GatorGirl Im nearly at my wits end because its causing me to get upset with him over fairly trivial things. are they spending every minute of their entire weekend with his family? Its called enmeshment. If he chooses visiting his parents because the alternative is sitting at home, plan some fun things for you two to do together that will be too good for him to pass up. The little things like who is taking the garbage out? I base this on the LWs statement that one or the other tries to make her feel guilty for not wanting to spend every weekend with the parents. Self-reflection should always come first when we want to repair relationships with others, especially important people. Years later, theyve never recovered. January 20, 2012, 9:10 am. Heck, some people are just like that. There is also a possibility that his parents create this feeling of guilt. Bagge72 Another weekend and the same situation again; its like youre living in Groundhog day. Lets see what to do with all our weekends, vacation and generally free time what to do with all our money oh, the abortion, should I get knocked up by the way, would you want or not want to know if I was cheating on you.. Oh, what else.. who is going to do the dishes, and who is taking out the garbage.. Am I forgetting anything? To me that is a bit thorough and ridiculous. Well. It also gets you out of the house so that, when his parents drop by, too bad, you arent there. When you find that you and your partner spend most of your time together sitting on the couch watching TV or scrolling on your phone, a conversation most likely It is soooooooo dangerous to do that. Another example is I would assume (i know, i know) if you knew me well enough to be dating me or moving in with me, you would probably know I am a big believer in X Y or X or totally anti XYZ. You have the option of talking to him about it-without that context (this is weird, grow up), and from the place where your needs are not being metaka Honey, it would mean a lot if instead of both Friday and Saturdays you are home, spending all day with your family, we set aside a block of one of those days for just us time. Sorry, but its not men its your man and OPs man. January 20, 2012, 10:33 am. Ok, fine, I do this. Ive put my head in the sand in relationships as well before. I realize going every weekend to his parents house is a little extreme, but remember too that its not just you anymore. He has no problem with his family coming to your place unannounced whenever they want and staying as long as they wish. Parents get old and die. Through good communication and a fair division of labor, these chores can be tolerable or even enjoyable. Doesnt he want her to be happy, or is his happiness all he really cares about? New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. He was this way through their entire dating, engagement, and now marriage. maybe im misunderstanding you. Michelle January 20, 2012, 9:29 am. I could sort of see this also playing into the bf still seeing his parents as his nuclear family, thus the #1 priority for his free time. 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